Comments on: Shari’s New Adventure For Her Girl

By: Shari

Shari — Sat, 14 Feb 2009 00:38:26 +0000

That’s taking one for team, Lan-Ling.

By: Lan-Ling

Lan-Ling — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 21:16:09 +0000

I’m willing to eat cupcakes for Etta, too. I like the pink ones though.

By: Kasey

Kasey — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 16:11:22 +0000

I love reading this blog and have really related to some of the Shari posts.

I do not have children yet but when I think about how the way my mother dealt with food I can easily see how heavily she influenced the way I used to eat and it took years to correct. My mother never starved herself, far from it, but she would eat emotionally and all the bad things. I used to eat (4) slices of bread with melted cheese slices at a time for snacks and didnt think twice about eating fast food.

After I graduated form high school and wasnt playing sports anymore that behavior caught up with me and I struggled for years to re-learn how to eat.

My mom still engages in the same eating behaviors and I still occasionally slip up but clearly your mother in particular will influence the way you look at food so it is great to see that you figured that out so you can be a good role model for your beautiful daughter. Kuddos to you.

By: Marla

Marla — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 17:41:11 +0000

I have to recommend to everyone an article Gloria Steinem wrote about Women and Food - it’s in her Outrageous Acts and Everyday Rebellions collection. It wasn’t about dieting specifically, but she discusses the way different cultures control and limit women’s food. Like cultures where the women serve the food and literally eat the leftovers after the men are done, or countries where protein is reserved for men, etc., and asks What would it be like to be a mother training her daughter in starvation? I don’t think I’ve ever looked at dieting the same after I read this: it’s not just a personal issue and a personal decision; there are huge societal implications. You know that book “Fat is a Feminist Issue”? Which I have never read, but that title definitely sticks in my head. Maybe it should be called Food is a Feminist Issue.

By: Virginia

Virginia — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 04:24:46 +0000

yeah, these kids pick up on everything. I try to do all my self-loathing in private…

but seriously- I am HOPEFULLY raising a daughter who has a healthy relationship w/ food & appreciates & respects her body.

my mom actually had/has ZERO body hangups. I wonder how I got so f’ed up!

By: Mom

Mom — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 02:22:07 +0000

My granddaughter Etta is amazing and she is an old sole. My daughter is pretty amazing too. My wish is that none of the women of Etta’s generation become as caught up in all the unhealthy loathing of the past 2 or 3 generations have.

By: Fit Bottomed Girls

Fit Bottomed Girls — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 21:41:52 +0000

Wow, great post. Great reminder that kids notice everything.

By: Shari

Shari — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 04:17:43 +0000

Oops. I meant to write “chubette” department. I must’ve been experiencing some brain fogginess from all the carbs (snort).

By: brownaround

brownaround — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 01:53:51 +0000

Very nice, Shari!

BTW, I think Lukas wants to have a cupcake with you… and my birthday’s coming up!

By: Noelle

Noelle — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 16:14:39 +0000

As the mom to two little girls, thanks so much for this entry. Really powerful.